Cinematic Romance

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We have all come across messages about love through media.  Romantic comedies are among some of the most viewed films of all time, and why not?  They are fun and can make us feel good.

On the flipside, there are some valid concerns about how our viewing habits shape our perceptions about what love is and what it looks like.  Are we getting realistic expectations or giving ourselves false hope when we watch rom-coms?

Perhaps some of both.  In a recent study, Veronica Hefner of University of Illinois and Barbara Wilson of University of Wisconsin found four primary themes of romantic films.  


1. Soul Mate/One-and-Only

Out of the 7 billion people on the planet, there is only one we are meant to be with.  

The Cons:  The biggest fiction of the soul mate belief is that there is someone we will be perfectly happy and matched with the moment we find them.  However, if we are perfect for each other from the start, then there is no room for growth or conflict.  As soon as we run into trouble, we are more likely ... Read more »