When it comes to looking for jobs, many of us are familiar with the importance of power. When applying for a job, who has the power? The employer. They are the ones who decide whether or not they will look at our application, if they will interview us, and ultimately if they want to hire us. For those of us applying, we can only hope that something about our application stands out.
Because of this, we may often feel the need to hide who we really are on our application. Maybe we try to anticipate what the employer is looking for and word our answers to questions accordingly. Maybe we try to put a positive spin on previous jobs to match the job we are applying for.
In relationships, we may experience something similar. If we think our partner has all the power for making decisions in our relationship, is it possible we pretend to be something we’re not because we want our partner to choose us? If so, will this help or hurt our relationship?
Clifton Oyamot of San Jose State, ... Read more »