You may have heard the phrase “It’s the small and simple things in marriage that make it last”. It can be as easy as making dinner, complimenting your spouse’s clothes, or giving a hug. The small act of a hug can have a big impact. Understanding the power of something as simple as a hug will help you remember to do the little things, even when you think it does not matter.
Hugging is not only enjoyable in the moment, it has lasting effects on both your relationship with your spouse as well as your attitude. Some say that it is not really a hug unless it lasts 10 seconds. That might be because hugging someone for an extended period of time creates a positive chemical reaction in your mind, body, and spirit. Hugs increase your serotonin levels (also known as one of the happy hormones). This creates a soothing effect in your body, helping you feel less stressed and more connected. Bottom line, hugs literally cause a chemical reaction in your body that make you feel better.
A hug bonds you with your spouse. During a hug, the connection is intimate. It is a way to release your worries, stresses, or fears and simply live in the moment with someone you love. Hugging can be a form of therapy, silently sharing with someone you trust. It can be a form of mediation; clearing your mind and focusing on the present. Expressing your love does not have to be a grand gesture. It does not have to be difficult. Finding a moment to hold your significant other might say more than words ever can. Nothing should be more important than your partner, and a hug is an easy way to remind them of that.
It should be clear that hugs matter more than you may have thought. Make it a goal to hug your spouse every morning. Can you think of a better way to start your day than by showing your partner how much you love them and feeling that love in return? The lasting benefit of something as small as a hug can create something so much bigger in your relationship.
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